What keeps emotional authority coming back for more?

Splenic Authority will leave a relationship the moment it is no longer healthy. Sacral Authority will move on when the relationship is no longer satisfying.

Emotional Authority will stick with a relationship as long as there is still growth, and increasingly mature conflict resolution.

The Spleen is all about safety and survival. Splenic Authority will walk away from a bond that does not support it's wellbeing on a basic, primal level. Simple.

The Sacral is all about sexuality, creativity and generative life-force energy. With Sacral Authority, you crave relationships that are deeply satisfying above all else. If your sacral is no longer responding, it means your energy is no longer available for that connection.

Emotional Authority is different. For a connection to be correct, it need not be exceptionally 'healthy' in the splenic sense or 'satisfying' to the sacral, as long as there's emotional growth.

The Emotional Center can handle emotional crises. It is not afraid of friction and conflict- in fact, it loves it. You can endure pain, as long as there’s hope.

As long as you are both willing to lean into confrontation, and as long as your communication and conflict resolution skills are progressing and maturing, the relationship is still correct for you.

With Emotional Authority, you know it's time to walk away when you've taken ample time to feel into it, and now it is clear that there is no more growth. Your conflict no longer generates deeper intimacy. There are no new experiences to be had, just the same pattern over and over again.

The Spleen doesn't mind repeating the same experience as long as it's healthy. The Sacral is fine with it as long as it's satisfying.

With Emotional Authority, if your partner is unwilling or unable to improve their communication, it’s over for you. If you are clear that there's more growth outside of the relationship versus in, you're out.

But if there's still more wisdom and maturity to gain through experience, if there’s still potential for deeper emotional intimacy- you're going to keep choosing that ride. You don't have to understand where it will take you, it might not make sense while you're in it- but your authority knows that there's still something there for you.

The more you follow your Strategy & Authority, the more you trust yourself. With time, you start to release all the various conditioned thoughts and behaviors that drive you to choose stagnation over progress, numbness over sensation. You refine your ability to feel (and build the courage to honor) where your greatest growth is.

The more rightness and confidence you have in your choices, and the less you feel the need to try and justify them to yourself or others. You trust in the intelligence of your vehicle and its movement towards truth, wisdom, maturity and transformation.

I'm just riffing on the logic here, and speaking to a concept that might be new for some of you. Your authority doesn't just tell you which physiological sensations indicate that a decision has been made in your body... each authority has different priorities influencing the way it makes decisions. The particular activations in your authority will add even more specificity and nuance to this.

I'd love to hear your experiences and reflections in the comments!