Musings on the 12-22 Compromise Channel
The 12-22 is the Channel of Openness, A Design of a Social Being (when in the mood ) It connects the emotional center to the throat. It is all about creativity, individuality, passion, romance, music/acoustics and art. I have it defined, it’s what makes me a Manifestor .
“Compromise” speaks to a challenging + uncomfortable energetic dynamic that occurs in relationships when one person has an entire channel and the other has one gate (half) of the channel. If you have either the 12, the 22 or the full channel- or you’re just curious to understand more about compromise in general, read on!
When you are compromised, you might feel an unreciprocated desire for collaboration in that specific realm and/or it can feel like the person with the full channel fully controls that domain of the relationship.
Compromise has all sorts of ramifications and it’s always different, but universally there’s only one effective solution- SURRENDER. Accept the compromise and let it be what it is, don’t try to resist, change or fight against it. Communication and consideration can help, but ultimately a compromise will always be a compromise.
The 12-22 compromise can show up in countless forms depending on the relationship. If I compromise you here, it might feel like I control the passion and/or the openness (or lack thereof) in our relationship. It’s my emotional wave that determines when we can socialize together and when we absolutely cannot. My moods might sometimes overpower yours, or you might feel triggered by the way I only do what I’m in the mood to do and can’t hide how I’m feeling for the sake of social normalcy and appropriateness. If/when my wave is unhealthy and chaotic, this will be particularly uncomfortable for you. You might envy the ease with which I open others by expressing myself and my emotions. Again, you might resonate with all, some, or none of this. Relationships are complex.
And oftentimes, compromise takes time and lots of proximity in order to become apparent. At first, it can feel like an electromagnetic!
A lonesome gate 12 can feel melancholy when it is longing to connect with individuals who truly hear and value the uniqueness and mutative potential in what you can articulate- you meet the 12-22 and at first you think, “Yay, it’s gate 22! Someone to listen to me who really hears me and wants to understand me!”
But then the mechanical reality of the compromise hits and you feel so SAD! Emotional individuality can be so happy or so sad, full or empty, love or hate. And as a manifesting channel, there is also a chemistry of ANGER. You are so sad and angry because you HATE that I am not listening to you in the way that you think that you want me to.
And even if I try my best to listen more in attempt to help you feel better, it’s not enough. It’s a futile attempt to fight against reality and disguise mechanical absolutes.
Gate 22 in the emotional center has the potential to transmit emotional spirit via grace and charm (when in the mood), but without gate 12 connecting it to the throat, it isn’t always able to articulate what it’s feeling. A hanging gate 22 can feel melancholy that there is nothing truly unique and worth listening to, it meets gate 12 and thinks “yay! they will plug right into my 22 and say something that breaks through the monotony and fills me with passion and inspiration! We will stare into each other's eyes and empower one another with our romantic poetry, you will be just as impacted by my words as I am by yours. Together, we can create art that opens people” But the 12-22 has its own mutative creative mission and it is not as interested in yours, nor is it seeking your help in this realm.
I have an ex who is a professional musician with a hanging gate 22 in his incarnation cross. At various points in our relationship, he tried to teach me guitar and offered to help me produce songs, he tried offering suggestions and practices to improve my singing. But I don’t just have gate 12 seeking a 22 to help me express my voice, I have the full channel. I wasn’t open, I didn’t listen.
Compromise can be the most maddening when you don’t “approve” of how someone is embodying their channel, you think they should do it differently. He didn’t have the language to express this, but it drove him nuts that he felt I am not nurturing even a small fraction of the musical potential of my 12-22 and there was nothing he could do about it.
My 12-22 has its own fixed process, priorities and timing. So now it appears that here I am, sharing a video of myself playing the few chords I know on my silly little ukulele, towards the end of a dense mechanical blog post about human design- fully aware that most who attempt to read this will have a hard time understanding what I’m saying. I don’t care! This is how I am in the mood to express myself. If you’re into that sort of thing, maybe you won’t mind my 12-22 too much even if it compromises you
If you’ve read this far, I’d imagine you have some experience with this channel. I’d love to hear about it in response to this email.
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