Parenting by Type

I recently gave two different readings for Generator moms, about their 12-22 Emotional Manifestor sons, 2 and 4, both RAX of Eden. These sorts of synchronicities are so common they no longer surprise me, but they do still amuse me!

What does it mean for parents to raise children according to their design?

The underlying intention behind applying Human Design to parenting is to provide awareness around how to raise children as their unique selves, so that they grow up with a secure confidence in who they truly are from the beginning. Thus, they hopefully won’t have to go through the same arduous process of unlearning and deconditioning that many of us experience, having been raised according to a homogenized mold.

It’s interesting navigating readings for parents, about their children. The way I approach working with parents differs vastly depending on the designs, and the age of the child.

When sharing about a young child’s chart, I aim to provide enough information to plant a foundation of understanding regarding things that will likely arise as the child grows up.. but I’m also careful to focus on what’s most relevant and practical right now, as not to overwhelm a parent with excessive detail about their toddler’s life purpose 😜 Too much information can also produce the unintended effect of leaving the parent with fantasies and expectations that their child may or may not fulfill- which is the opposite of my intention!

It’s always of clear, practical value and importance for a parent to have a deep understanding of their child’s type, strategy and authority, especially if it’s different from theirs. To explain to a parent how to support their child in cultivating a strong connection to their body and inner knowing from the beginning.

If your child is a Generator, it is of utmost importance to encourage (as opposed to stifle) their sacral sounds, and honor their responses, even if it sometimes contradicts with what you think is correct for them. Obviously there are times where as a parent your own authority/parental sensibilities will override… it’s all part of the experiment!

It is healthiest for your young Generator to have a flexible bedtime. They need to use up all their sacral energy until there is nothing left in the tank, before they can sleep.

If your child is a Manifestor, you may be in for quite the wild ride 😜 Manifestors require a lot of freedom, in a way that will likely push the edges of your comfort zone as a parent. The more that you can train them to ask permission from a young age by showing them that you will typically allow them to do what they want unless it’s truly a matter of safety, the stronger your relationship will be. Your Manifestor child will grow up with a healthy awareness of their impact, and an understanding the importance of their strategy of Informing. This is essential if you want to raise an empowered and peaceful Manifestor, as opposed to an angry rebellious and ineffective Manifestor, or a passive Manifestor disconnected from their power.

A Projector child requires recognition. Encourage them to study systems, and invite them to share their perspective. When they have grow up feeling seen and valued for their awareness, it is a lot easier for them to successfully honor their strategy of waiting for the invitation to serve as a leader and guide, as opposed to bitterly pulling for recognition.

Though it may not show up until they are older, they arent designed to exert energy consistently like Generators. As a parent, you can teach them how to discern and honor when it’s time rest so that they never reach the state of extreme bitterness and burnout that many Projectors experience, having grown up without an understanding of their uniqueness.

The Reflector child is highly sensitive to their environment, and place is everything. If they are not feeling good in a particular environment, that’s something to take seriously!

As a parent to a Reflector, you have a really fascinating opportunity to begin observing the process your child goes through over the course of a lunar cycle. You may notice the pattern- when they have more energy, when they’re more emotional, when they tend to be more vocal, etc. as they grow, you can then encourage them to get to know this process as well.

Naturally, this only skims the surface of an highly complex and nuanced topic. If you’re a parent, I’m curious- what elements of your child’s design have been most valuable for you to understand? Or, which elements of your design do you wish your parents had understood?