Nature vs Nurture

Have you ever been in a relationship with somebody who doesn’t behave exactly how you wish they would all the time? 😜

In the instances where you feel frustrated or unmet by your partner, have you ever wondered: how much of this is a maladaptive learned behavior (that can be healed/improved), versus how much of this is just who you authentically are as a person?

This is the the brilliance of the Human Design knowledge. Though of course it cannot fully answer this inquiry, it can provide a lot of insight. For example:

Is she authentically this shy and introverted? (Maybe she’s a 2nd line personality, single definition with all 3 gates of aloneness) Or is it largely a byproduct of conditioned insecurity? (Maybe she has an open ego)

Is it truly his nature to be this ‘blocked’ emotionally? (Maybe he has an open SP and a 5th line personality and he’s naturally less emotional and more practical than you are) Or is it repression and unhealed trauma? (Maybe he’s carrying hella conditioning in said open SP)

Is she really this selfish? (Maybe she’s a 1/3 profile and an integration being) Or is it a reaction to past experiences? (Maybe she’s actually very tribal with a transpersonal profile, she’s just a bitter projector who’s felt unsupported and thus given up on supporting others)

Does he really need this much rest? (He’s a non-energy type) … or is he being lazy due to a conditioned pessimism and lack of motivation?

Looking at a partnership chart will not give you the answer to “should I stay or should I go”. That is something you will arrive at through strategy & authority. But having this information can save you a lot of confusion. It can be the catalyst for profound acceptance.

If you’re interested in learning about the charts of others in your life, I offer integration sessions and packages. If you’re ready to dive deep into the mechanics of your partnership, brave enough to face what might be revealed, I offer partnership analysis sessions. You can learn more here.