Can’t feel your sacral response?

I was leading a workshop at the High Desert Human Design conference a few days ago, and I received an interesting question. A Sacral Generator shared that she had been feeling a lot of anxiousness throughout the week, which was making it difficult to feel her sacral YES- she was wondering what to do. This particular Generator has been in her experiment for years, and typically feels a strong connection to her responses. 

After a bit of conversation around this, the insight that emerged was surprisingly simple- “You’re saying you can’t feel your response… have you been *waiting* to respond?” 

She found this profound, and on the spot. Her mind had been telling her that there was something ‘wrong’ with the fact that she couldn’t feel her sacral YES, when she just genuinely was not responding to use her energy yet. She had forgotten the part about waiting! 

Her mind, speaking for her conditioning, was telling her that she ‘should’ be responding. She ‘should’ want to ‘make the most’ of this time by attending all the talks, making connections, avoiding FOMO, etc. But her body wasn’t responding. She had been overriding her lack of response, taking on more and more of other people’s anxiousness through her open centers, overwhelming her system and then wondering why she still wasn’t responding. 

Can you relate to this? Your mind tells you that you ‘should’ be responding to being social, going to the gym, or taking action in your business… but you’re not. Are you able to wait? Can you hold the discomfort of all the stories your mind is telling you, and wait until your body gives you the signal that it’s time to move into action? 

Many Generators who enter into a Human Design experiment are disconnected from their sacral response, this is true. It takes time to reawaken and resensitize yourself to this powerful response mechanism. As a Generator, cultivating a relationship with your sacral is the most valuable thing you can possibly do for yourself. 

And also, sometimes not being able to feel a response is not a problem to be fixed. A lack of sensation in your sacral isn’t necessarily an indication that you’re not connected to your body, it just means that there is nothing your sacral is engaging with in that moment. Relax, and wait.